Hiiiiiiii!
I am just having a late night thought.
I realised that I’m still not on Facebook. I know, you’re probably really shocked. But honestly, I don’t feel like I’m missing out on much. Yeah, I don’t get tagged in memes (this is the only reason my sisters want me to get it) and I miss out on the occasional cute photo from some random distant relative, but in all honesty getting it would just mean another thing to stress about. Take Instagram for example: I will post and then sit by the phone, worried that nobody will like it. And I’ll check it every 30 seconds. Maybe you do that (I know a lot of my friends do). Maybe you don’t. Maybe I’m just weird. But still, it’s obsessive and addictive, and I can’t help myself. It seems like my self esteem is built on those likes. One person clicking that heart will build up my confidence so much?? It takes them less than one second to “make my day”. That is a scary thought. And kind of ridiculous. We are sometimes called the “technology generation”, and I think that we rely so much on social media that it becomes a part of us- which can be and good thing and a bad thing.
Why do we focus so much on what other people think? Why do we never see positives about ourselves unless someone else points them out? Think about it. It you wear a top that you don’t really like and you get loads of compliments, you will probably wear it a lot more, because you care more about what others think and it take precedence over your own opinion. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, and I have realised that I really haven’t got a lot of time before school ends, so I don’t really care anymore about what people in my year think. I will literally leave and never see the majority of them ever again. But looking back, I think that I spent (wasted) a lot of time caring about what people think and say about me, and my “public image”. I wish I could visit the younger me from junior school and just say that if people do make fun of you, don’t get sad- feel sorry for them, because they are actually some of the most insecure people you will ever meet. They comment on the appearance of others to distract themselves from… themselves. They have such a low self esteem they need to lower the self esteem of others in order to feel better.
Do you think that you depend too much on social media and on what others think about you? Comment down below your opinions. Have a great Easter!
Minty xo
March 31, 2017 at 7:50 pm
I love this- really relatable xx
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March 31, 2017 at 8:21 pm
I’m glad you like it xx
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March 31, 2017 at 7:52 pm
A highly relevant post. So many, including myself (I admit) are or have been victims of this self-inflicted pressure at some point or the other. Even I have often wished that I could go back in time and push in some sensible thoughts, of the like you mentioned, into my head! But, it’s only over time and years that we realise the actual meaning of self-worth and acceptance. You can never teach it, it has to be learned through realisations. Nice post!😊
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March 31, 2017 at 8:22 pm
I completely agree, but I think that everything happens for a reason. As we grow up, we realise what is good for us and what is not so good for us- it’s all part of our journey xxx
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April 1, 2017 at 5:57 am
Very true 😊
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March 31, 2017 at 10:04 pm
Thankfully, with Instagram or Facebook, I could care less. If I get 0 likes, such is life. I care about people reading my blog but that’s about it.
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March 31, 2017 at 10:05 pm
That is definitely a great mindset to have!
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March 31, 2017 at 10:08 pm
The most important relationship you will have is with yourself. You need to like yourself. You don’t need others to!
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March 31, 2017 at 10:10 pm
I totally agree!
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April 3, 2017 at 7:49 am
Hi! Great post, all true. I completely agree with you. I nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award. I hope you are able to do it. I’d love to read your answers.
Thanks,
Gracie
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April 3, 2017 at 8:13 am
Thank you so much for the nomination ❤️ but I did the sunshine blogger award a couple of months ago 😦
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April 3, 2017 at 8:14 am
You’re welcome! That’s okay. I understand. If you’d like to do it again with a news set of questions that is totally fine though.
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April 3, 2017 at 1:39 pm
You nailed it Girl ! Indeed we are becoming so much dependent on social media for happiness in our lives ! btw I have nominated for Blogaholic award ,check it out.
(https://fromadaydreamersdiary.wordpress.com/2017/04/03/on-receiving-the-blog-aholic-award/)
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April 3, 2017 at 2:54 pm
Haha thanks so much! I’ll be sure to check it out xx
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April 17, 2017 at 8:31 pm
This was brilliant!!! I try my best not to surround my self worth around likes on a picture but it truly is a big problem these days
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April 17, 2017 at 9:35 pm
thanks so much! And I get it, it’s difficult to not get somewhat obsessive over how others perceive you- I really feel social media is a blessing and a curse at times
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