soooo I don’t think I mentioned it, but my sisters getting married woop woop!! he’s a really nice guy and I’m super happy for her and excited that she’s starting this new chapter in her life, but to be honest for a while I really felt like she was just leaving me behind. Stupid, I know but I do tend to overthink everything (because of anxiety stuff) and this is one of them.
It’s strange sitting with her now because I’m desperate to try and have so much fun so I can feel like I got the most out of having her around while she’s still living at home. Given she knows about my blog and she reads it sometimes, I flipping hope she doesn’t read this because then she’ll just get gassed and get big-headed and nobody wants to see that
It’s strange having someone else enter the family and become a part of everyone’s lives. I’m still not used to it, because the first few times I met him it was super cool, because I only have sisters, so the idea of gaining a brother wassomething I was excited about. But after the engaging now all I’m thinking is that this guy basically symbolises change, to be honest. I don’t really mind change most of the time- I’ll just go with the flow and YOLO it. But in this case, I don’t need or want change, which is super selfish I KNOW but I’m indulging myself for a few days before I actually get my brain in gear.
It’s strange thinking about what will happen when she leaves. I have 2 other sisters, but I’m closest to this one. I basically tell her everything and she’s helped me a lot with my anxiety. It will be difficult to adjust to the idea that she isn’t a few seconds away anymore and I can’t just waltz into her bedroom and rant or cry or (most of the time) just sit there and ramble on about something. She was basically a live-in therapist for me tbh and I’m not okay with my therapist leaving because that might mean my anxiety getting worse.
ANYWAY that felt really good to write because now I feel this huge weight of 1 billion emotions has just gone!! It may not seem like it, but I am actually really really happy for her (and her fiancé, who is very sweet) :))))
stay fresh,
Minty
February 16, 2018 at 5:02 am
Aww don’t worry – this is completely normal to feel especially since you both were close. It’s not silly or selfish at all! Congratulations to your sister and her fiance! And good luck on trying to accept this whole change – you’ll get used to it and it’ll be really exciting once she gets married and possibly make you a future auntie (inshallah) 😂 💕 Best wishes!
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February 16, 2018 at 10:04 am
Hahahah awww thanks so much for this!! 💙 yeah it’s a long process but I think it’s just important to remember that everything happens for a reason, and this is a great thing and yeah inshallah I hope she has a kid!! cos I lowkey really wanna be an aunt 😂😂
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February 16, 2018 at 2:21 pm
Hey minty! Long time no hear! I was happy to see you posted
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February 16, 2018 at 5:30 pm
hey! aww yeah I’m trying to get back into posting regularly but I always get distracted with work/exams 😦
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February 16, 2018 at 9:36 pm
Yeah I can imagine – do you have Sunday free for a group post? If so what time Central? (Your time – 6 hours)
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February 16, 2018 at 11:05 pm
Yeah Sunday is good! I can do evening time, so like 6/7/8 pm UK time? does that work for you?
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February 16, 2018 at 11:05 pm
It works for me! Let me check on the others
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February 17, 2018 at 4:03 pm
That time works for Cam and Ella! Grace will try to join too! I’ll contact you at 6pm UK time tomorrow thru WordPress, then we can start a Google Doc to type on
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February 17, 2018 at 6:57 pm
wooo I’ll be there!
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February 18, 2018 at 1:02 am
ugh I’m so sorry but I can’t do 6- I have to drop my sister at airport!! can you do any later- say 10:30 uk time?
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February 18, 2018 at 1:16 am
Probably not but let me check
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February 18, 2018 at 1:37 am
okay no worries if not- my fault for forgetting about the airport thing
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February 18, 2018 at 1:57 am
That works actually! We can do 30 mins – 10:30 to 11
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February 18, 2018 at 2:47 am
great!
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February 18, 2018 at 1:57 am
Your time
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February 16, 2018 at 6:54 pm
That’s how I felt when my best friend moved 40 minutes away from me. She used to pretty much live with me (She lived right down the street from me), but she moved in with her boyfriend miles away from me. I felt lost for awhile, and it was hard. But, we still text each other everyday and she comes back every weekend so we can continue to be with each other. I hope you’ll get used to this adjustment! Keep your head up and continue to look at the positives 💙
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February 16, 2018 at 11:03 pm
you’re so right! I think I have a habit of just focusing on the negative rather than thinking of all the ways I’ll keep in contact with her- I’m sure everything will settle down eventually and I’ll get used to the change 🙂 Thanks so much for commenting 💖
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February 16, 2018 at 11:12 pm
I tend to focus on the negative more than the positive too because of my anxiety
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February 17, 2018 at 6:58 pm
same! I tend to revert back to a negative mindset which is really bad 😦
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February 17, 2018 at 10:32 pm
Aww I’m sorry you feel that way. I agree tho, I’m scared for the day that my siblings get married (if ever) and leaf me behind, especially my sisters. The two of them are in college, which is already hard, but I guess it’s practice… my sister, who I feel closest to (most of the time) is now a few states away… It’s been hard, but I’m getting used to it I suppose. I hope you do okay. <333
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February 18, 2018 at 1:04 am
aw it makes me feel better that you are getting used to it- hopefully I will too! Do you talk to her often? and I think it will definitely get better with time- we will be fine 💙
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February 19, 2018 at 4:24 am
I’m sure you will! I try to FaceTime her every weekend but I’ve been slacking recently, I visited her a week ago though! ❤ good luck
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February 19, 2018 at 4:10 pm
thank you, and you too! xx
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